When I did a quick search on Google for over analyzing, I found out that it is an issue that a lot of people suffer from. Is it a psychological issue ? A social issue ? Is it because of the highly evolving complexity of life ? It may be one of the latter causes, or maybe it has been there in the human nature from the beginning, well, I can’t say, but anyhow I thought I would write about it from my point of view, and discuss this issue with my lovely readers and so, I can get a clear answer to my wonders.
I used to suffer from this Social disease for a very long time, for as long as I remember, I used to Over-Analyze people’s reactions, words, behaviors, body language, and I never stopped, it did me good many times, I have no say against that, but it kept me awake at night. I even tried to study the human behavior from a sociological and psychological point of view, and I even studied body language extensively, and I became an expert in it, and that made me happy/sad at the same time.
How was that ? Well, it made me understand people better and anticipate their every move, it turned me into a human lie detector, it gave me the ability to know things, deep secrets about people that I really didn’t want to know, it made me read people’s minds like an open book. Even if the person in front of me is acting as mysterious as it can be, I still can read them, like an open book. I confess when I started to do that, I really liked it, I had the power, and I think that that is what every person – on this huge ball called earth – looking for, but after doing that a lot of times, it gave me sorrow, a sorrow that is beyond comprehension and beyond tolerance, I really didn’t want to know one’s secrets, I really didn’t want to know when this person is lying to me, but never the less, I did it, but anyway that is not our subject.
I – as a human being – am exposed to errors, and misbelief, I’m exposed to Over-Analyzing. I have studied the human behavior, but I – also as a human being – wanted to invent my own theories about the subject, I wanted to anticipate and predict the patterns of which certain people behave and that what evolved the Over-Analyzing disease in my head, I started over thinking about what this person says, how they act, what do they post about on their Facebook, Twitter or what ever other social network they may use, I would sit down hours talking to myself, analyzing every single “Status Message”, “Tweet”, “Posted Video”, “Image”, compare them to what I heard from the person, what happened, and how was their attitude, body language, face expression and all other types of indicators that a person can have and send, so I can have a full picture about the person I am dealing with, the problem that I am trying to find a solution for, or whatever a dilemma or issue I am facing. Then I would come to conclusions, results or what have you, that made me deal better with what is in front of me.
And then there shall be light, yes, something happened, I lost a person that was close to me for Over-Analyzing, I lost them with no returning ticket, this person was smarter than me, and knew what I was doing, knew my sin, that I was unnatural, abnormal, a sick man. I wasn’t myself, though that person was close to me, but still, I used to do my thing, the thing that I was proud of, I Over-Analyzed their every move. This person is gone now, I regret nothing of what happened because I know that this person came to my life to make me stop doing that, it was the way of the universe telling me STOP doing what you are doing or you will lose everyone around you, I know I’m making a fuss about this issue when it can be just as natural everyday habit, but it is not, it’s a disease that is eating our Society away, and people are proud of !! It’s just like smoking, people doing it are proud of it, but it’s ruining their lives.
A wise man once said : “Don’t sweat the small stuff”, as silly as this saying might be, it is actually so deep, and so full of truth. STOP Over-Analyzing things around you, life is simpler than that, take it easy, because you ought to live life, not struggle with life, struggling with life will only give hard time, will make you stay awake at night and it will drive everyone away from you.TRY to stop analyzing the person in front of you, and when somebody says something hear it for what it is, not for what science or your over-analyzing mind would interpret it, and see what that does to you, see how your life would turn to be, I know I love my post-Over-Analyzing era, it’s full of Joy now, without concerns, and I really hear people now whenever they talk, I don’t prepare the answer to their sentences in my mind when they talk, no, I really hear what they have to say.